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Joined: 23 Jan 2007 Posts: 1 Location: Central Oregon
Posted: Tue Jan 23, 2007 12:15 pm Post subject: Teens/Tweens
Generally I like to get all of my errands and shopping done early Saturday morning. I avoid all the crowds and more importantly all the obnoxious teens.
I had the displeasure of having to go to Target last night around 8:30/9.
The Mall (Cacade Village Shopping Center) was just packed with tweens/teens. My first thought - Isn't it a school night? Where are their parents?
Now I may be old fashioned but on a Monday night at 9pm my behind was either doing homework or hanging with the folks watching a sitcom. There was no mall trolling at 9pm on a Monday for me. And this was even when I was 17. There were rules in the house and being home on a shcoolnight before 8 was a big one. My parents were strict but not to the point where I had no social life.
Anyhow - on to my gripe
I am leaving Target with diapers under one arm and a bag in the other. Dig in my purse find the remote and pop open the van. Load all my junk and wait the few minutes it takes for the traffic to allow me out of my spot. And enters the scene a dumbass tween/teen. This kid had to be no older than 14. He was decked out in ghetto gold chains, doo-rag and drowning in his pants (caucasian kid).
As I am backing out of my parking spot I see the kid walking in the middle of the drive. He sees me as well as the car behind him waiting for him to move over. The car squeezes by (the kid doesn't move). This child is not alone btw. He is with an older adult male (well over 30) and another kid. The adult doesn't pay any attention and keeps walking. As I near past this kid he leans on my car and laughs at me.
I throw the car in park, jump out of my car and started after this kid. I generally never lose my temper and wasn't in a poor mood last night, but something about this kid just made me flip.
So here I am starting after this kid - full knowing if I catch up to him I will give him an ass whoopin he so deserves, but his "parent" grabs him by the collar and tells him to keep moving. The "parent" wants to know "Whats my problem?"
1. Your kid is walking in the middle of the drive of a parking lot blocking traffic.
2. Your kid has no regard for others and lacks common respect for others. Again a reflectioon of you? - serious lack of parenting!
3. Your child has one of the foulest mouths I have ever heard on a child his age. Back in my days (mind you I am only in my mid- 30's, so my days is the early 80's), if there was an adult around I knew not to lip off. Whether that adult was a parent, relative or stranger - you just didn't talk back!
I just don't get how some people raise their children. Kids rule the roost now - I guess I am part of the few families that still have rules. I have 4 kids ranging from 2 - 11 yrs. They open the door for adults, they have manners, they don't crawl the mall without an adult, and heaven forbid if I ever hear a foul word out of ther mouth they will be tasting blood.
I have no hang-ups about spanking my children. When it comes down to it I have no hang-ups about spanking yours either - if your not going to raise your kids someone else should!
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