Sep 20,2006 00:00
It’s probably the most important relationship a child has outside the family and it begins anew every single year.
“The connection between a child and a teacher is a big one and it can affect everyone in the family,” says Randy Copas, vice president for residential services with Starr Commonwealth, a non-profit organization serving troubled youth and families headquartered in Michigan. “The time to begin that relationship is long before the first parent/teacher conference.”
But don’t be surprised if the teacher is somewhat defensive initially. “An involved parent with no agenda is a rarity for many teachers,” he says. “Be patient. Once a teacher sees that he or she has your full support, they’ll be comfortable opening up.”
Teachers appreciate inside information about a child and who better to provide it than you yourself? Let the teacher know what makes your child tick. Give them an idea of how your child learns; what seems to work for your child and what doesn’t. Think about it this way. When you offer a teacher insight into your child’s personality, what you are really doing is giving your child a voice.
This approach is particularly wise for parents whose children have a history of academic or behavioral issues. “Teachers are only human, like the rest of us, and they talk among themselves about the kids coming through the system,” says Copas. “A child can get a reputation that follows him for years. You really want to interrupt that cycle.”
How? Don’t wait for problems to crop up. Be proactive instead and talk to the teacher candidly. While it may not be necessary to review every little detail, basic information can provide the teacher with the tools to handle situations appropriately.
Regardless of the student or the circumstances, when you open up the lines of communication and bring an open mind to the discussion, you are taking the first steps toward a successful school year for everyone.
Starr Commonwealth is a child and family services organization with nearly a century of experience in treating troubled youth and their families. For more information about Starr Commonwealth or the No Disposable Kids (NDK) training program to help build healthy school environments, call (866) 289-9201 or visit their websites at www.starr.org or www.ndk.org.